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How To Say It: Decline A Long-time Friend Who Now Wants More

The Issue: Sexual Chemistry as the Dealbreaker. You have been close friends for a long time and love each other. But now he wants it all, sex and a serious relationship with you. Having him as your partner would be perfect. You can see yourself living your life with him … except that you have […]

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How To Say It: Decline A New Friend Who Wants More

The Issue: You recently met and became quick friends. Soon thereafter, the flirting started… and not by you. At first you laughed it off, but now it happens a lot. Clearly, he wants to cross the platonic line but sex with him is not interesting to you. It’s time to tell him you want friendship […]

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Build a fort. Start talking.

Without exception, every breakup story I hear has to do with a breakdown in communication. A while back I wrote a post urging couples to supervise their relationships. Have scheduled talks that I call “The Huong Phat.” While this concept freaks out most every man I know, my response is “so what?” Would you rather […]

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Ambiguity is a silent relationship-killer

Ask me anything, if you do not understand me. I’ll try my best to be clear and honest with you. Why is it so hard for you to return the favor so that I can get clarity about what’s going on between us? Do not give me hints. Do not force me to decode the […]

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Find Meaningful Relationships in Unexpected Places – Take A Sound Match To Go

I recently heard a conference panelist complain that he didn’t know half of the “friends” in his network.  He wanted the ability to discover the one or two people that would add meaning to his life.  I practically jumped out of my seat and screamed “I can help you do that!”  But I kept my […]

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Music Personality Baby-Naming

Years ago, I needed a relevant way to identify the four types of music listeners that I believe exist in the world. Back then, I called them Devotees, Enthusiasts, Ambivalents and Apathetics. I suspected the latter two groups might not appreciate the name-calling, so I needed neutral names, not knowing how these labels would be […]

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Can Music Personality Predict Compatibility?

If you haven’t noticed, you get along better with people who like music the same amount as you. In my world, Music Personality defines how much you like music – not what you listen to. Take the quiz and learn your Music Personality (at A Sound Match). Four groups exist. Are you a Diamond in […]

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When to Pull the Plug?

The Realtionship Issue:  How long do you stay in a new relationship before pulling the plug? Almost worse than being in a bad relationship is being in an okay relationship that’s enjoyable-enough but deep down you know this person is not the love of your life.   How long do you give it before admitting that […]

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“Huong Phat” or Why No Relationship Should Go Unsupervised

Mitch was a mess. His girlfriend of two years broke up with him a few days after he proposed to her. He was clueless that his proposal didn’t have a fighting chance. Why did he think proposing marriage was timely while she had one foot out the door? By the time he asked her, she […]

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