I discovered gold when I stumbled upon this perfect rejection line.

Dating is stressful when you unexpectedly receive an unwanted invitation for a date. How can you respond:

1) with the truth?
2) with a kind and respectful rejection?
3) so you don’t have to reveal your life story?

It’s hard for me to lie. I feel compelled to tell the truth and then explain myself so the person feels respected and I feel understood - which is completely unnecessary to do with strangers … and stressed me out whenever a stranger asked me out on a date but I couldn’t hide behind the safewords “I’m seeing someone.”

This line fell out of my mouth one day when a man asked me out after we had been talking for 5 minutes. It felt like the perfect thing to say and his reaction to it suited me perfectly.

The Issue:

You’re standing in a long line. You suddenly find yourself engaged in a lively chat with the person next to you, who then invites you out for coffee. You are surprised and … not interested.

The Opener:

“I appreciate the offer. Chatting with you has been fun. I am flattered and …”

Get In It :

“I am unavailable.”

This line is simple. It packs a punch. And, it works like a charm.

1. It’s not a lie because you are unavailable … to this person.
2. It’s kind and respectful because you have not rejected a thing about the person.
3. It says everything you need to say to get your message across.

If you want me to tailor “How to Say It” to your unique situation, write in and ask me.